My Uncle Died by Suicide and I Don’t Want You To

Life can be overwhelming, even unbearable at times. There are moments when it feels like the world is closing in, and the pain seems unrelenting. For those experiencing these dark thoughts, it may feel like there’s no way out. However, even in those moments of hopelessness, it’s essential to remember: every life matters, including yours. Suicide is not the answer, and while it may feel like a way to escape the pain, it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

This topic is deeply personal to me. A few years ago, my uncle took his own life. Losing him left a hole in our family—one that can never truly be filled. I’ve seen firsthand how suicide doesn’t just end one life; it sends shockwaves through everyone left behind. I don’t want anyone else to feel that kind of pain, which is why I want to let people know that they matter—very much.

Before we dive deeper—did you know laughter is good for you? They say it’s the best medicine, though personally, I think chocolate gives it a run for its money. Anyway, here’s a quick one: Why don’t skeletons fight each other? Because they don’t have the guts.

The Value of Life

Every person is unique, with their own story, talents, and contributions. Life has a way of presenting challenges that make it easy to lose sight of this truth, but your existence has a purpose. Whether you realize it or not, you impact the people around you—your family, friends, coworkers, and even strangers. A kind word, a shared laugh, or simply being present can change someone’s day, even their life.

Often, we undervalue ourselves because we focus on our perceived flaws or failures. It’s important to recognize that imperfection is part of being human. Struggles, setbacks, and mistakes are not reflections of your worth; they are opportunities to grow and learn. The simple act of living, of waking up each day and moving forward, is a testament to resilience and courage.

Speaking of moving forward, why did the scarecrow win an award? Because he was outstanding in his field!

Why Suicide Isn’t the Answer

When someone is in emotional pain, it’s natural to want an escape. Thoughts of suicide often arise when we feel trapped, believing that the pain will never go away. But the truth is, pain—whether physical, emotional, or mental—is temporary. Feelings and circumstances can change, often in ways we don’t expect.

I know this because I’ve seen the aftermath of suicide. My uncle’s passing left behind so many unanswered questions, and so much grief. If only he had known how much he mattered to us. If only he had reached out. If only he had waited just a little longer to see that the darkness wasn’t permanent. I don’t want anyone else to go through that.

This is the ripple effect of suicide. While it may seem like an end to your pain, it transfers that pain to the people who love and care about you. Family members, friends, and even acquaintances are left grappling with grief, guilt, and questions they’ll never have answers to. Your life matters to them, even if it’s hard for you to see right now.

Additionally, there are countless stories of people who have overcome their darkest moments, emerging stronger and more resilient. Many who have survived suicide attempts later share that they are grateful to still be here, having found joy, connection, and meaning in life again. It’s proof that the future holds possibilities you can’t see during times of despair.

By the way, do you know how bees get to school? On the school buzz!

Seeking Help Is a Strength

One of the most dangerous misconceptions about mental health struggles is that asking for help is a sign of weakness. In truth, reaching out requires immense courage. It takes strength to admit that you’re struggling and to seek support from others.

There are professionals trained to help you navigate difficult emotions, whether through therapy, counseling, or support groups. Trusted friends and family members can also offer comfort and understanding. You don’t have to carry the weight of your pain alone; there are people who want to walk alongside you and support you in finding hope again.

If talking to someone feels too difficult, writing your feelings down can also be a powerful outlet. Journaling, creative writing, or even expressing yourself through art can help you process emotions and make sense of what you’re experiencing.

Here’s a random one to brighten your day: What’s orange and sounds like a parrot? A carrot.

Finding Meaning and Purpose

Life is full of ups and downs, and it’s easy to lose sight of the beauty and meaning that exist even amidst struggles. Sometimes, rediscovering purpose starts with small steps: taking a walk in nature, reconnecting with an old hobby, or helping someone in need. Acts of kindness, no matter how small, have the power to shift your perspective and remind you of the good in the world.

It’s also important to recognize that healing takes time. There’s no quick fix for emotional pain, but with patience and persistence, things can improve. Celebrate small victories, whether it’s getting out of bed, reaching out to a friend, or completing a task. Every step forward is progress, no matter how small it may seem.

Progress is like a good dad joke—it may seem small, but it sticks with you: Why don’t eggs tell jokes? They’d crack each other up!

A Future Worth Living For

The pain you’re feeling today is not the end of your story. Life is full of unexpected twists and turns, and the future holds opportunities for joy, connection, and fulfillment. While it’s impossible to predict what lies ahead, I think it’s worth holding on to see what’s possible.

Think of all the moments you haven’t experienced yet: the laughter you’ll share with loved ones, the goals you’ll achieve, the people you’ll meet, and the memories you’ll create. Although valid and deserving of acknowledgment, there is more to your story than the pain you’re feeling right now.

You Are Not Alone

Above all, I want you to know that you are not alone. Many people have faced similar feelings and have found hope and healing. There are resources available to help you through this difficult time, and there are people who care deeply about your well-being.

If you or someone you know is struggling, don’t hesitate to reach out for support. Your life matters, and there are people ready to help you see that again.

I wish my uncle had reached out for help. I wish he had known how much we loved him. I wish he were still here. If you’re struggling, please hold on. You are worthy of love, happiness, and a future full of possibilities. Don’t give up—better days are ahead, even if they feel far away right now.

And if all else fails, remember: why did the bicycle fall over? Because it was two-tired. But you? You’ve got plenty of fight left in you.

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Whatever you are facing, there is always hope. And we will hold on to hope until you’re able to grasp it yourself. If you’re thinking about suicide, we encourage you to use TWLOHA’s FIND HELP Tool to locate professional help and to read more stories like this one here. If you reside outside of the US, please browse our growing International Resources database. You can also text TWLOHA to 741741 to be connected for free, 24/7 to a trained Crisis Text Line counselor.