We Need to Talk About Depression (So Why Not Start With Mine)

By Debora Miranda

We need to talk about depression. Why not start with mine?

For two years I couldn’t find the pleasure in doing one of the things that I enjoyed the most. I lost count of the times I put a pillow behind my back and made myself comfortable with a laptop on my lap, only to shut it down soon thereafter because I could barely write a sentence. I tried to write with new and old notebooks, with fancy pens. I tried in the evenings and in the mornings. I used candles and music. I tried at home and in cafés, while travelling or in random places. I even went on a winter retreat on an island to spend four days totally dedicated to writing.

Yet nothing would come out.


Every time I closed my notebook or shut down my laptop, I would curl up in the fetal position and close my eyes, tears coming out with no mercy. No matter how hard I tried to wipe out my emotions, they would always find a way to escape.

Today I know I spent two years facing blank pages because I was trying to let out a soul that my depression had emptied.

My depression was like getting stuck in traffic. I was there against my will. I was running out of fresh air. Everything was blurry. My thoughts and feelings were crossing and running around, and I didn’t even know if they were mine or someone else’s.

I would face my wardrobe, unable to decide what to wear. I would spend hours searching for entertaining things to do, only to become exhausted and eventually give up. I cried for no apparent reason.

There were intense psychosomatic episodes that brought me to the doctor – even to emergency services – with palpitations and numbness that I could locate in my body but not in my mind. There were so many weekends at home because it was so much easier to stay in than to go out and pretend.

And yet I gained some clarity from those situations. I saw my sadness, my emptiness, and my apathy. I felt the distress of not being able to articulate what was going on inside me, of not being understood, of feeling ungrateful and useless. I realized how all of that was wrapped up in a shiny paper called guilt, which only made everything worse.

I saw it all: tiredness, apathy, sadness, and emptiness.

I felt it all too, especially the guilt.

Thankfully, in the absence of my writings, I spent endless hours reading. In the midst of my struggle, I was pleased to find a “me too” world.

It was a global, virtual community.

Scientific articles explained to me that all of this was depression.

Strangers convinced me that I could get through this.

And guess what? They were right. I did.

I’m writing this because I can write again, and now I want to help others. To those who are reading this from the other side, please know that you can get through this. You can get past the exhaustion and the apathy and the sadness and the emptiness. You won’t have to live with the guilt forever.

You can get through this. You will get through this.

I know because I could and I did.

I am writing again. This is my proof. This is my evidence that this isn’t the end for you.

So if you are stuck in your own soul like I once was: You can do this.

You can get to a place where everything is OK.

Debora writes on mental illness and other stigmatized health conditions in English and Portuguese on

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Comments (25)

  1. A

    Thank you for this.

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  2. R

    I’m not quite sure you are right, if I will eventually get through.
    But thanks for sharing a hope.

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    1. TWLOHA

      Thank you for commenting and reaching out. We understand your hesitation, but we do believe there is hope out there and that you can find it. We encourage you to seek out help and contact us at anytime. Our inbox at is always open. We are happy to listen and respond. Also, you can find help in your area by visiting our help page: and you have the option of being connected to a trained counselor through the Crisis Text Line at anytime when you text “TWLOHA” to 741-741. Please know that there is help out there and hope exists. You are brave for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us.

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  3. Lauren Carter

    Beautiful story told in beautiful words. Thank you.

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  4. Erik

    Just found out I had depression great article all you have said is very true.

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  5. Terry

    God I hope so.

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  6. Anonymous Duckling

    I’m glad that you were able to write again!! God Bless You ♡

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  7. Melissa

    I feel like I’m waiting for that point where ‘things get better’ or that time where ‘I can get through it’ but I feel like I’ve been stuck specifically the last two years. I can’t seem to get through it, I have little glimpses of moments where it seems things may get better, but they don’t. Help me?

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    1. TWLOHA


      We are grateful that you shared how you are feeling with us. It takes immense courage. We hope that you will continue seeking and asking for help. While you are always welcome to contact us anytime at We also encourage you to utilize our help page: and the Crisis Text Line. By texting TWLOHA to 741-741, you will be connected with trained counselor. Please continue with the bravery you have displayed by asking for help. You are strong. You can do this.

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  8. Heidi

    I am so happy for you! But for me I truly believe there will never be an end. I will live in pain for the rest of my life, however long that may be. Which is why it is so tempting to leave life.

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    1. TWLOHA


      Thank you for commenting and reaching out. We understand the struggles you are going through. We can relate to the feelings of hopelessness and helplessness you are experiencing. But we do believe that there is hope and help out there for you. We believe that you can find peace in this world. If you ever just need someone to listen, you can contact us at We do recommended that people seek professional aid. There is a list of local resources on our help page: OR you can be directly connected with a trained counselor via the Crisis Text Line by texting TWLOHA to 741-741. Please do not give up on yourself or finding help. You are strong. You can do this.

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  9. punctum35

    i agree and understand with what you’re saying. thank you.
    however, the only thing i dreaded hearing was that if so-and-so could overcome depression why was i still depressed.
    i feel fine now but i’d appreciate to learn what my response should’ve been back then when i heard those words.

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  10. Dorothy

    Not true! I can survive with this illness but I will never get through it. Every time I think I have got through it something happens to bring it around again, in a month, a year or a couple of years… I’m right back here. It’s those times between lapses that give me strength to keep going and the people I have met online who say “me too.”.

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  11. Rachael

    Thank you! I just simply want to THANK you!

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  12. Alyssa

    Thank you for writing about this. It has really touched a part of me that I thought was gone, my feelings. This made me feel for the first time in a while and not feel like normal but as in a deep feeling that you can’t explain. I’m struggling with something similar and your words gave me strength to move a little further in my day. Thank you

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  13. Rose

    Thank you. I needed this

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  14. M

    It’s great to read about an end to the blurred vision and the feeling of lost control whole traffic goes by, but at the same time the feeling of coming up for air feels unattainable and far from grasp. I wish there were a step by step process of finding a way out or some words that could be said that would spark an “ah-ha” moment of clarity.
    For now I will find hope in others stories of reaching better days and grasp that I will find it too.
    Thank you for sharing, this was beautifully written.

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  15. Nelia Reid

    Thanks you, for working through your struggle, to become a beacon of hope for others. Be encourage that through the sharing of your pain you have uplifted many.

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  16. Melissa A.

    Thank you for sharing what you went through. It means a lot to not feel alone. I had depression different times in my life and it was so hard to get out of it. With the help of a psychologist, psychiatrist, family, and one of my best friends, I got better. Your message and hope you’re giving means a lot

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  17. HC

    I’ve been stuck for 15 years. For me atleast I see no way out of being stuck. Wasted years long gone now. Sleeping and shutting it all off is the only pleasure i get.

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    1. TWLOHA

      Hi there. Thank you for reading, commenting, and reaching out. We are grateful for your courage. We are glad you are here. Please do not hesitate to contact us at We would be honored to read and listen to what you’ve been going through. You are not alone. It doesn’t have to be this way. And since we are not professionals, we do encourage you to seek aid via our help page: or you can text TWLOHA to 741-741 via the Crisis Text Line to be connected to a trained counselor. You deserve hope. We are here for you.

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  18. Jeffrey

    I can relate to what you’re saying. Thank you for your positive words. You’re helping me through this.

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  19. Rebecca

    thank you for sharing I have been depressed and feel like no one understands I hide it also been cutting which i have to hide makes me feel like crape

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    1. TWLOHA

      Rebecca, please know that you don’t have to hide how you’re feeling. We are here to listen and understand what it is you’re going through. You can always reach us via email at But please do not hesitate to seek out professional help. Whether it’s through our help page here: or by texting TWLOHA to 741-741, the Crisis Text Line will put you in contact with a trained counselor. Your bravery is admirable. You deserve hope and help. Always.

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