We Can Fight Back

By Sky McKissackJuly 6, 2017

You—yes, you—are a fighter.

Looking back three years ago, I would have never believed those words. My entire being was lost in a depression that had lulled my hope to sleep. Every day was a struggle; every day I questioned my very existence and often contemplated giving up on the little life left in me. Self-harm became my way to achieve “comfort” and numb the pain of wounds I had buried. But then, somehow, I found hope and mercy. At first, it seemed too good to be true.

Could I really be loved?

Could I really recover from something that defined me?

Was it worth the effort?

I questioned myself often during the first few months of recovery. There were days where I relapsed. There were days that I swore, ‘Never again,’ only to relapse weeks or even days later. But, there were also days that the light reached my eyes again, days that joy joined my every step forward, and days where I no longer hid my scars in shame. Those were the days that kept me going. Those were the days that taught me how to fight.

To fight for hope.

To fight for dreams.

To fight for myself.

So allow me to be the one to remind you of your will and ability to fight. Surely, there have been days where you’ve wanted to walk back into what the darkness has to offer. We long for the darkness because in a distorted way, it’s comforting. It’s “easy” to stay in bed all day, to cry, to reach for that one thing that gives you temporary “relief” from your struggles. Sometimes, lies are so much more believable than the truth. You can let yourself get lost in the deep abyss of sorrow and let depression have the last word. Or you can reach and ask and search for hope.

We can fight back.

Depression does not have to have the last word.

Suicide does not have to be the only way out.

Anxiety does not have to be your master.

There is light in the darkness, and sometimes that means simply looking inside yourself. It means grabbing ahold of the truth that has been there all along, but somehow got misplaced; whispering promises of freedom and joy.

It’s OK to struggle, to feel pain, to let yourself acknowledge the broken condition of your heart. When you acknowledge the pain, healing has the opportunity to flood the dark crevices of the places you’ve long kept hidden. Wounds won’t heal so long as they are covered with a bandaid. They find relief when they are exposed to the light and the air—not when they are forgotten and pushed aside.

It’s not an easy choice, but let me tell you, it’s worth it. It will be worth the effort, the ups and the downs, and even the possibility of a relapse. Whatever it is that’s holding you back from finding that place of true freedom. It’s worth letting go. It’s worth giving up control. It’s worth sharing your problems with others who can help.

You are not your pain.

You are not your diagnosis.

You are not your past.

You are loved.

You have a purpose.

You are a fighter, and a survivor.

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Comments (8)

  1. sandra Williamson

    Anxiety is my master.

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    1. Becky Ebert


      We hope that you will work toward releasing your anxiety. You are deserving of hope and help, and living a life where anxiety is not controlling you.

      You are welcome to email us at [email protected] at any time. We read and respond to every message. But we also encourage people to seek out professional help. A good place to start is our Find Help page: https://twloha.com/find-help/local-resources/ There you will find free local resources available to you.

      Please know that you are not alone, and you do not have to continue living this way.

      With Hope,

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  2. Joy Schrock

    This is so powerful and can be echoed by all the hearts who have found hope, healing and restoration.

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  3. Livi Mae

    This is f***ing amazing and powerful.. I’m bookmarking this so that I can read it whenever i feel down

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  4. Heather

    I’m hanging on your every word….
    As tightly as I can.
    I want so much to believe I can do this….

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  5. Linda

    Thanks for your story you being hope to others who were where you were 3 years ago

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  6. RoRo

    “I have been to hell and back again.” (Switchfoot)

    I can fight back.

    But “maybe six feet ain’t so far down”. (Creed)

    I won’t fight back anymore. Not this time…

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    1. Becky Ebert


      Please keep fighting. We know how hard it is to keep going, to find that energy and want to keep fighting back. But know that you are not alone in this. You can share your struggles with others. You can seek out the help you need and deserve.

      You can start at our Find Help page here: https://twloha.com/find-help/local-resources/ Or text TWLOHA to 741741 via Crisis Text Line. You will be connected to a trained counselor free of charge. They are there to help you. You are not a burden. You are needed here. Please stay.

      Also, you can email us at [email protected] if you wish to share more of your story. We read and respond to every message we receive. You are not alone.

      With Hope,

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