To Anyone Struggling

By Meera Damji

To anyone struggling,

If you feel so horrible that you can’t sleep because you’re terrified of tomorrow, take a step back and look at all the other days which terrified you, and you still made it through.

See, you are so brave.

I know the voices in your head are loud. But hear me when I say this: you are loved. You’re not a burden. Your friends and your family care about you.

And no, you are not too much.

Please don’t hurt yourself. Because if you’re like me at all, you’ll want to do it again and again and again.

Instead, try to breathe. Imagine what colors would feel like. And have water. Have lots and lots of water.

Create a playlist of your favorite songs. Remind yourself that there will always be songs to add to that playlist. And you gotta stick around to hear them.

Think of your favorite book or film or TV show, and the comfort in reading them or watching them over and over.

And while you’re at it:

Hold on to the beauty of the little things. Like how red and blue and white make purple. Or how you can have pictures taken in the middle of a busy street and printed in just five minutes.

Or how you can create anything, and I mean anything, from a blank canvas.

And when none of these seem to work, remind yourself of your greatest memories with your best friends or from childhood. There will be more of those. And you have to stick around to experience them.

I know your appetite has gone. But try to eat a little. One spoonful for yourself and one for your favorite celebrity, maybe? (Mine is Tatiana Maslany).

Call your friends. Tell them you are struggling. Be honest. They will understand. They do and will love you.

Speak to a therapist. It’s okay. They will help you.

Have your vitamins and take your medicines and eat your fruits, too.

Look up at the stars. See the trees around you. There’s magic where you stand. The whole universe is with you.

You are not alone.

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Comments (7)

  1. Anonymous

    Thank you for sharing your struggles as well as your insight with us. I needed to hear this today, as I’ve been going through some hardships with my employment. Sometimes, all it takes is to read a motivational post like this one to rekindle the fire that’s inside of you or to take that small step forward no matter how hard things may be. Sending love and light your way!

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  2. Elizabeth Cox

    I needed this today. Thank you.

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  3. Muhammed Rishan

    I came to read this article in the right time. Thank you so much for this kind words. 👍

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  4. Anonymous

    Thank you for posting this. I’m at the end of my rope. I feel like I’m drowning. This gave me hope.

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  5. Donna

    I wish this gave me hope. My job is in a slow down. I can barely make ends meet. And on top of all that I am lonely, so lonely. I am old, and feel like I will never find someone to love me again. They all want slender, and athletic/toned women. The one who took me as I was no longer wants me for whatever reason. He won’t say. I’m tired of hanging on because my mother is still alive, and my death would kill her. I’m so tired. And tired of being alone. I am writing this from work, and can’t imagine how I will make it through another 13 hour shift.

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    1. TWLOHA


      Please stay. We know it can be hard to continue when things feel both overwhelming and hopeless. But there is hope, we believe that. You are not alone in how you are feeling and there are people who want to help you. Would you email our team at so we can provide you with some support and encouragement? It would be an honor to hear more of your story and to help you find hope and healing.

      With Hope,

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  6. Amanda

    Thank you.
    I’m trying to find the hope.
    More than I think I ever have.

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